NLP Language Patterns - Cause and EffectNLP Language using Cause and Effect is extremely effective Custom Search NLP Language here is referring to an involuntary form of linking.
A very useful benefit with this pattern is it can allow us to become aware of how our buttons get pushed. Normally we can't take away the stimulus, but we can start to control the response. The first requirement here though is actually awareness. That is awareness both of the stimulus (traffic jams) and awareness that our response can be a choice. From a linguistic perspective, we facilitate this awareness by commenting on the direct link - as in the traffic jam comment above. How we actually do that can vary and be quite creative in the moment. The main aspect for us to attend to here is the existing link. "What is it about traffic jams that you allow to ruin your day"? "It is interesting, isn't it, how we can allow these things to bother us when someone else wouldn't care"? To delve right into the dealing with this pattern would take us further into the 'Sleight of Mouth' patterns which will be dealt with in another article. "Winter really depresses me". We can explore this statement by going for more clarity with detail. While this may work, be careful that you aren't collecting this litany of even more reasons why winter is depressng. From the perspective of this particular pattern we are exploring the allowance of the link - not the validity of it. DANGERS WITH THIS PATTERN For this NLP language pattern to work well I find it best to use with someone who I think has the capacity in that moment for neurological change - sensory work usually as in our normal NLP techniques. Imagine this response: "Exactly how do you allow winter to depress you?" "Because of the bitter cold, the fact that I slid off the road on ice and wrecked the car, being house-bound for weeks on end, not seeing my friends....... ......as they spiral on down to even greater depression. Beware the list!!! If a person is in a truly negative or dysfunctional state, then the use of this pattern may even add to their problems - further evidence that they are incapable and unworthy. Handle this one with care.
As such, this precludes those who's emotional state is too intense in that moment - ever been told to just relax and not let it worry you by a well meaning soul. It also precludes those who are too weary or exhausted at that time. An important point here is that this can often include addicts of various descriptions. It also precludes those who don't yet have the skill for neurological change. That may have to be trained in. This doesn't mean we can't help them, it just means that it may not be wise to use this particular pattern at that specific time. If you are not careful, you may just be pointing out further inadequacies for them to feel guilty over. POSITIVE APPLICATIONS We can actually use this NLP language pattern, though, for our advantage. "Going out for a meal really makes me feel good." "Christmas makes me happy." "Being part of a team like this really makes you enjoy your work doesn't it?" So, similar to Direct Cause-Effect in the Linking Patterns you can design this in. Find a phenomenum or event or some such thing and link it to the response you want. It may not give you the full result you are after but could be quite a significant contributor to it. Return to Individual NLP Language Patterns main page. Return to Freestyle NLP Home Page |
